Thanks Couch Surfing

A late winter night I was walking from work to the train station, it was one of those nights that you wear everything you can to keep you warm. From the distance I saw my train passing by, I thought about running, but I was too far so there was no point walking faster.

I sat by myself in train station freezing bench for 30 minutes waiting for the next train. Across the street there was this block of flats, and I kept trying to look through the windows like there I was some weird voyeur. Some had the TV on, a dim reading light, pink curtains closed, blue drapes open, and I wished I could walk in every apartment, met their owners, learn about them, about their lifes, and then my train arrived and days passed by.

During that cold winter, Ryanair had a super sale: £0.01 flights everything included!!! That was so exciting, so hard to decide where to go! Ireland was one of favourite options, I loved going there the first time to that land of gold pots and leprechauns and Alice had never been there, so it was perfect. We bought a flight to go and two to come back… just in case… well it was an accident… but it was such a cheap accident that we bought flights to Stockholm too!

Alice had heard about CouchSurfing, but we were both somewhat apprehensive about it. The conversation that followed was sort of: “Do you mean… really?”, “You just walk into someone’s home and you spend the night there?”, “What if?”, “That sounds crazy, makes no sense.”, followed by a “Let’s do it”.

We made a joint profile sent out requests to several places in IE, targeting more some specific areas and we decided “wherever we get a place to stay is where we are going”. So we did, the day before we took off we got a confirmation we were staying in quirky Cork. We took a small backpack each, hopped on train, the plane, and took off to IE.

The landing and the bus trip from Shannon, were followed by Irish magic and by this increasing nervousness about CSing for the first time. But…it was all so natural, we made sure we arrived on time by following a neighbour into the block of flats, without knowing what was going to happen from that moment onwards, we just gave ourselves to the CSing spirit.

From the moment we walked into Fabien’s apartment we belonged in that world. A world where you open your doors to strangers, invite your friends over to meet them, cook French crepes until they fall asleep in the deep blue sheets that belong to your at-the-moment-out-of-town rommie. Give them expert tips to enjoy the city you live in, and you let those strangers stay another night.

It made our time in the biggest city southern city of Ireland very exciting, we got gifts for our host and during the second night, in the midst of crazy interesting conversation, my cooking and unexpected snow, the future was unveiled, CS showed us the way: Wexford.

We woke up in those deep blue sheets looking at the world outside, it was still snowing, everything was covered in white. We got off of bed all excited without knowing that thanks to CS, that day we would fall asleep across that beautiful country after going to the woods with an Irish primary teacher, (the only Irish person we spent time in Ireland), our amazing Romanian host, and their Egyptian friend. Why in the woods? Well of course Eve being a Teacher needed some bugs to present in class the next morning.

That day I feel in love with CS, I feel in love with the way that there was absolutely no money that would pay for that experience, for the smiles, the kindness, that natural way that you, a stranger, turned into a friend. That day I belonged to the world a bit more.

From that day onwards, I have meet hundreds of CS’s, convos, meetings, parties, surfing, on the street.

I even got rescued once when US Airways let me check in for the first leg of my flight in Miami, without letting me know that my flight to UK was cancelled and that they lost my bag, (I would find that bag again two weeks later in West Sussex). I only had time to ring Andrew, a good friend who I had met through CS, and let him know I was going to be homeless in Charlotte in one of the coldest times USA had seen for a while. It was January 2010, Miami was paralysed by the 0 degree wave that hit it that night, and I was heading North. Thanks to CS, when the flight touched ground there was someone waiting for me in this “Don’t worry, I will help” way that CSrs all over the world have.

A year after I had wished I could walk in random homes just for the sake of curiosity, I had been rescued by the concretisation of that wish: CS.

Thank you Casey.

P.S: You will be happy to know I am still part of the community, have my own profile now, and I currently making friends in Cancun.

A Taxi Please

As I walk, with my feet-operated mind, thought the streets of Cancun I encounter a great variety of people from all sorts of places. It makes me wonder if there anyone who is actually from here…It just seems that everyone is from somewhere else, some place I have never heard about before, names that slip through Mexican lips as it was some spell, taking me way back in time, and I find myself wondering about all sorts of past, their personal past and the past that brought them here, the recent past, and the cultural past.

The CSs, the expats, the neighbors, the taxi drivers, the water man, the policeman, the Hotel workers, the tour agencies salesmen, all of them apart from my good friend Roger and his six siblings, all seem to have traveled to Cancun looking for a fresh start.

The roaming taxi drivers are currently my favorites to discover, not only because the guidebooks say not to , (we all know how a “Don’t” makes it all more interesting) and to only get taxis from supermarkets or Hotels, which fare is at least more 50 pesos than the ones that are driving around the city, but also because every time I jumped on one it has been a 2 to 3 dls discovery experience.

I usually only use Taxis at night, long after the buses have stopped running and I have no other way of getting home, I mean I possibly could walk, but those 10 km of distance between my current home and the centre say: no jump on a taxi or you will never get to sleep. I guess I could do it one day and put it up on the blog under “Cancun marathon – do I still own a camera?”

As soon as I get the taxi driver to stop, the chances are: 99% that will be a man, 95% that is night, 90% that is not from Cancun, 50% that will come on to me and ask me if I had sex before, 35% are on FB, 65% of the time are on their Blackberrys’. I tend to use my amazing sense of humour to get past the sex conversation, that quickly leads to “are you religious?” or “are you a lesbian?” or more recently “are you a virgin?” mostly I just Laugh Out Loud when this happens and my temporary chauffer always thinks I am very funny and usually we can move on. Only once I put my claws out and my latin arrogance and pointed out that “nearly everyone in the world has had sex, and I am not interested” with a tone of voice that not many people have heard, although you’ll find that arrogance costs an extra 10 pesos, seen that when he dropped me he charged more than he had initially said, I guess I am not going to be driving taxis as my new job after all, and just to think that was a 5% day trip!

Usually, all the other conversations move on to where I am from and what lead me here, and then me finding out about them. Luckily, when God created Latin people He decided let’s create people who are comfortable with themselves and can talk about their private life, love, children, with no fear, which course makes my taxi trips very interesting.

Not only they’re all from somewhere else, as they all seem to work from 3pm to 3am, (I don’t seem to be able to get on the morning shift taxis), some come because of the lack of well paid work. The answer is mostly the same to my Portunhol question “te gusta hacer isso?” Course they like it, especially if it’s either that, low wages, or “Narco”.

The huge Mexican with the extremely blackened windows, driving his car, looking through the clear rectangle in the windscreen he says yes, he’s done this for two years, got him in a lot of trouble with women and with the money he is going to start a “carreira”, go to University', be someone else. Mario tries to be useful, wants to make sure he gets a faithful customer, so he is very nice and makes sure I don’t leave his taxi without his phone number in case I can’t find a taxi, loyal customers means stable income. Cipriano, a family man, a religious man, a 10 years taxi driver works hard to see his teenage daughter growing up and looks forward to see his wife who is at home waiting for him on a Sunday night. He has met many people, but probably the most curious one is sitting beside him, this strange girl from a country he doesn’t know anything about. Is it in America? Do you speak Catalan? I nearly lie when he asks me if I have a boyfriend, I had decided the previous night I was going to say my brother was my boyfriend, (well he wouldn’t know I would be talking about my brother… for the obvious reasons), but I feel it’s safe to be honest. I answer his naïve questions with a welcoming smile, he seems puzzled by this “Agnostic Portuguese”, but as soon as I say: “We should all be the best we can no matter what we believe in”, he smiles back at me, I made a friend.

I get out of the taxi, shake his hand, close the door behind as so many other taxi doors I have closed before and with a key in mind hand I get ready to open a door to a different world.

Feet-operated Mind

As I walk down the street in Cancun, I notice how my shadow seems to get smaller in every step under the hot blue skies and the Mexican sun.

One of my favourite things to do has always been walking, not only because we kinda of learned it naturally as kids, and because generally people have been do it for a few thousand years now. But also because there is this great feeling about walking somewhere, taking your time, ditching your car and walk for a few hours, and putting yourself through the painful task of getting back.

I always had this feeling that when I walk my brain works better, I can appreciate my surroundings; observe all the little details that turn that place into a special place. A little kid wearing a read shirt playing outside, the dogs lays lazily as you walk past, turn around to the next corner, the doors of the house next to you are open turning you in an unknown guest for a few seconds. Walk a bit further, listen to that great sound of a unheard song pulling you in, taking you somewhere else you have never been. And it goes on and on.

Have you ever thought about it? How many great things have happened to you when you are just walking about, following your own steps? Without those earphones in your ears, just taking in what the world has to offer. Or how much trouble you got yourself in, by walking 10km instead of 2km in a old forgotten corner of the world located in Northern France, in the pitch black of a January night when all you have is a little torch to guide your steps?

It’s like this great time for thinking, it’s like inspiration is able to come in, say hello and the little thoughts running loose inside your mind find a way of connecting, a chain of mysterious hidden views you didn’t know you had stored inside you. You find perfect sense for things that wouldn’t be linked otherwise. It’s like your brain is feet operated and each step makes that strange wheel that generates great thoughts spin faster and faster. It’s a natural ecstasy sponsored by your mind, provided by the world.

It makes your thoughts travel from outside to inside and you find yourself randomly thinking of how much the tabs you had opened the previous night on your Internet browser say about you. Gmail, Photo Tips, Amazing Travel Stories, YouTube playing the classic 80’s song: “I just died in your arms tonight” and Women’s Adventure Travel. (Yeah, well we all know I had FB open before but it wasn’t open then.) I guess it doesn’t really require much explanation…

Your feet take to where you need to go and by taking you further, your mind gets clearer, by walking down that dirty road, your thoughts get cleaner, every new step brings you closer to the next turn in that road, and slowly the world becomes yours to explore, one road at a time.

Time to go walking.

Safety: "My" View

(My thoughts on safety in Mexico, after reading an US article about the subject)

There are many countries in the world, many places I thought I wouldn't go but as years pass by and I travel more through more countries, I like to believe that I am creating a sort of consciousness that makes me aware that whenever you go somewhere you should respect the culture and the country where you are going, and act accordingly, and don't try to over impress people with all the things you have at home.

The other thing that develop is this "perspective on safety", so I have to agree as someone have said that a place is as a safe as you let it be. Course I know there are moments you are at the wrong place at the wrong time. Which means you can be in some ski resort in Poland get drunk and have all your money stolen and might be having some great night with your girlies and get raped in UK, or get some gipsy looking the doors on a subway in Rome or Barcelona to try and pickpocket you. (Those are all amazing places to go too).

But I would still recommend not wearing stuff makes you stand out anywhere in the world, and not getting insanely drunk, but if you do want to there are many resorts anywhere all over including Mexico where you can do that. Hopefully some people will agree that a lot of problems of theft happen when tourists are vulnerable, and being drunk is definitely putting yourself at risk, or wearing the smallest skirt you can find in your closet.

Some people might end up, getting lost and find themselves in The Bronx, or in Inglewood and might have a bad idea of the US. Others might see on TV all the gang problems and crime in US and think they would never go there either for exactly the same reasons this article was written. Because they want to safeguard people and friends who like traveling and might end up in tricky situations.

Just cause a place is dirty is not always dangerous and is cause its clean doesn't make it safe. Unfortunately many places and not like some areas of Switzerland where you can leave your beers outside that they still will be there in the morning.

Most Mexicans work very hard, they cook amazingly well, they give you a hand when you need, they are happy to help you with information on safe and non safe areas, and they will be friendly and kind towards you. Mexico has amazing places to go, amazing photo opportunities, amazing water to dive in, things to experience, to taste, and to try, it's a heal of a playground. And for the "normal" tourist that goes to Mexico most times the biggest threat are the sales people that might try to overcharge you for the tours.

I will leave it up to you if you want to visit Mexico or not. I would, well I am currently visiting it (again) and every time I get into those waters after crossing the town from my friends place to the beach, I feel there is no where else in the world where I would want to be right now.... and they don't have Tacos like this in USA. :)

Be careful and mindful of others anywhere you go.

Cancun - Behind The Scenes of Fun

Since I arrived to Mexico I feel I am behind the scenes of “Cancun – the tropical paradise”. I have been learning why “Cancun is for the Tourists and Benito Juarez is for the Mexicans”. It’s like being in a massive onion of cultural layers and socio-cultural realities, where the more layers I peel off the more there is too know. Everyday I learn more, everyday I experience more of this extensive variety that Cancun has to offer, everyday my path crosses with more and more people that make this exploration of Cancun more complete in everyway.

As I walk through streets of Cancun I learn to read its people, to fall in love with their faces, with how they talk, with how they help you when you don’t ask for help. I walk through any street without any discrimination, I go wherever my feet take me and see it all, from the dirty streets where tourists don’t walk to the shinny packed streets full of tourist passing through the “mescla” in the city centre, where some tourists venture themselves, locals work and expats live or in any other order.

I hop in the bus and let this new world inspire, I try to discretely observe the faces, the clothes, the situations I encounter as if I was merely a ghost, without trying to influence anything at all as if I am trying to just take it all in without spoiling it, without changing it from what it really is… and it makes me wonder…

What is it? What is Cancun? Is it the images that we see of Zona Hotelera when we “google Cancun”? Is it the short fat Mexican wearing a sombrero? Is it a city bathed by sun, fun and heat?

Through my eyes Cancun is so much more, is like this extreme socio-cultural experience of getting out and going to the beach, I would never call it a extreme before, but for me, here, it has become this interesting activity on Ruta 16 where I never know what Cancun is going to offer me after the next turn.

I signal the little van, hand the chauffer 6 pesos, sit back by the window and off we go. A lady comes in with her quiet son asking for help, does her spiel, her paisanos offer her their kindness, the chauffer waives off the fare, she still looks restless, I am sure it’s not enough, but she smiles thankfully and for the rest of the day she will carry on walking this streets outside asking for help, as a strong, loving mother who would do anything for her son, even if that entails walking the city under the humid over 30 C heat. Outside the juggler takes his chances by juggling in front of the cars as soon as the light turns red, first row street entertainment, if he is lucky, he might get some pesitos and one day join the streets clowns who walk in on the bus on a real show. They give their shot, tell the passengers their jokes, behind their melting make up, there are some not so enthusiastic faces eager to be appreciated, but one seems to give them much attention, I look at the skies and hope their have better luck on the next ruta.

The “tiendas” start to become more and more often as we get closer to Cruzero, sometimes it’s hard to see the clearly through the confusion of “tiendas” and Mexicans in a hurry walking about. Most shops are filled of cheap clothes and mobile phones. A little glimpse of the even more packed side streets, bring lost memories of Honduras, and then I smile remembering Roger’s advice of “not walking in that area by yourself”… course that was after I already had. Makes me wonder how many “bad areas” I have walked, trusting that my Latin European looks and that my sense of humour will help me getting by, as they always have.

I ask the chauffer to let me “bajar-me aqui” without being sure if that is correct. It’s crossing road time I look at both sides like I would in any street in the world and I feel as if as I going to do a bungee jump, its very exciting and I am sure I will be very happy when it’s over.

From the dusty dirty streets, full of houses owned by hardworking Mexicans I arrive to the centre, the big supermarket Chendraui by the nicely decorated roundabout with coloured seashells is my reference point. The surroundings areas are much cleaner and there is a visible North American influence, not very far there is one of the over 14 Plazas packed of Internationally renowned shops, the American Plaza from where you can get buses to anymore, and if you are lucky you might even get one of those nice buses that travel to the ZH. I usually try to get the Ruta 2, it passes by Wal-Mart, Radio Shack, Sam’s Club and other Big typically American (USA) Stores before picking me up and take me to the beach paradise for which Cancun is known. Why R2? Well… I have obviously noticed that most of these buses have A/C.

Me and the Mexican workers are joined by tourists that travel from Hotel to Hotel and Plazas to Plaza in this stretch of 20km of money spending paradises where people all over the world dream of spending just one night. Even the whole experience of getting of the bus and crossing the roads is very different. It’s all in the pressing of a button. I press the button, bus drivers stops, I press a button, a little white man comes up telling me how many seconds I have to cross the road. I could be in any city in USA right now crossing the road, but course I am not, although the prices of the shops are no longer in pesos.

However it’s not in the shops/stores/megastores, where buying only one item would mean spending my entire budget that I want to get lost. I walk, I explore just like I would in any other part of town. Here I meet Melissa and Jake a young newly wedded couple from Indiana, I learn about Cancun from their eyes, I smile politely whilst I learn about all the things they love about Cancun. I can’t help thinking they’re all only peeling off the top layers of this sweet onion, which I am devouring slowly, but hey, they young, probably work hard and have 10 days holidays out of the year, they’re allowed to see only the top layers, if they want to. The Mexicans thank them for coming here and so do I.

Cause of them “Cancun has work for everyone”, I open the newspaper and find pages filled of job vacancies, cause of them there are thousands of people are able to raise their kids, cause of them while some Mexican workers cater for their needs other Mexicans cater for those same Mexican receptionists, waiters, barmen, etc, cause of them the tortilla man, the bread and the water men that roam around town satisfying everyone’s basic needs, and have plenty of customers from all sorts of places and walks of life.

I walk through these streets and find the sea behind these perfectly immaculate, architecturally stable buildings; I dump my things hastily, run, dive, swim and find myself emerging from these waters. I feel like I am swimming in a warm soup, course I wouldn’t know how it feels like to swim in soup, but I can only imagine how ants must feel like, course I am not an ant either, but …I could be. J

When I swim in these waters, thousands of words run around in my mind, allowing me to mentally write dozens of books keep stored in my mind. Books of adventure, of admiration for my paisanos, admiration for the world, for all the different realities I have had the pleasure of witness, but mostly books hoping to inspire others to be enjoy this beautiful word we have, this beautiful world which is all we truly have.

My socio-cultural adventure won’t finish here however. It might take me back to sitting in a bus stop in a centre waiting for Ruta 16. Allowing me to get mesmerised by the 20 buses that stop at that very bus stop in less than 5 minutes filled of tired workers, and how suddenly all the over 6000, 12 hours daily working, taxis drivers finally have customers, justifying the frantic daily driving around the city. I will find some of these workers on Ruta 16, tired workers looking outside the window on the way home, teenagers French-longggg-kissing on the bus after a long day apart, the little kid sitting between his parents, who smiles at me through this big white framed glasses, way too big for his face, spiked hair according to the good Mexican tradition, showing off this tender smile that I can’t help to love. I smile back at him, he quickly looks away, and shyly looks back at me, I wish I was brave enough to ask permission to his parents to take a picture of this cute 4/5 year old without sounding like some weird paedophile.

Next time he comes on the bus I might not be there, I might be cycling around town with Tonho, the northern Mexican who wants to learn Portuguese, I might be watching the sunset in a hidden secret location smoking a “cachimbo da paz” with the modern hippy Mexican girls, wearing roller-skates instead of shoes, I might be in Mambo Caffe enjoying the Latin moves to the rhythm of the Mexican / Cuban, I might be in a Mexican BBQ, I might be across town randomly saying to the taxi driver “don’t loose that bicycle”, I might be in a CS meeting singing some old rock and roll 80’s song up on stage, I might be listening to my some band playing my best friend’s favourite song while I am sitting in a alley eating fabulous Tacos and she is about to wake up across the globe not knowing I wish she could be eating this taco too, …or a different Taco seen they’re a bit small. And I might even end up in the roof tops of some random building in central Cancun in a party full of Portuguese, Hungarian, African French Expats whom I never met before I walked through that door.

I don’t know where I will be there when the little kid smiles back at some stranger in the bus; I don’t know where he will be either. But if there is one thing I know, is that it doesn’t matter what layer of layer of the onion you are exploring, doesn’t matter if it’s a poor, a rich house, a resort a fancy 5 stars Hotel, if the streets are clean, dirty, or less clean or more dirty, … Cancun will always receive you a 5 year old smile.